http://www.mamamia.com.au/health-wellbeing/response-to-mias-what-to-say-to-sick-people-colum/
And a couple of other thoughtful reads as well
http://lisabadams.com/2013/04/05/some-thoughts-on-how-to-be-a-friend-to-someone-with-a-serious-illness/
http://lisabadams.com/2013/02/27/the-stupid-things-people-say-to-people-with-cancertheir-families/
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